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What Qualifies Me to Talk About Holy Chaos?

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So, what is this "Our Holy Chaos Blog" all about and what qualifies me to write?  For most of my married life I have been found to say that family life is chaotic.  It is not bad chaos, but instead holy chaos.  I love every minute of the chaos that God has gifted me with.  We got married and within four months found out that our world would be tipped upside down as we were (unexpectedly) expecting our first child.  This was not our plan, but I am so thankful that it was God’s plan. 

God does not call the qualified, he qualifies the call…and a call to beautiful chaos is what He has given to us.  In this blog we will share our experiences.  We will share some of our lives with you, in hopes that we can help others to learn from our mistakes and grow from our successes. 

I am a mother of five very diverse children.  The wife of a permanent deacon and a full-time supervisor who works more than 40 hours a week to provide for our family.  I am a daughter of aging parents who live in our basement. A sister of an amazing human being who lives with same-sex attraction.  My degree is in Theology, where I hold a master’s degree, but have been called out of ministry to be home more for my family now working in education as an interventionalist.  Our lives have thrown curve ball after curve ball and yet we joyously follow the will of God in our lives. 

I will share stories of being a mom of two children with ADHD, one who cannot focus for long and the other who cannot organize more than one step at a time.  There will be stories of being a mom of a child who suffers from debilitating panic and anxiety.  I will share the joys and struggles of having two children with Down Syndrome and whom are both adopted from China. 

We will talk about how my life was flipped upside down when I left my beloved job in ministry where I served as the Director of Family Ministry to instead be a full-time stay at home mom.  This movement in God’s will was difficult and though I didn’t understand it at first, I felt peace following it. 

As a family we face being very different, almost outsiders, to most of our extended family.  Family gatherings can be challenging, but we make no apologies for who we are and the faith we live.  We have grieved the loss of a parent and the loss of two children we never got to hold.  There have been health scares within our immediate family along with heart disease and cancer in our extended family.  All the while trusting in God’s goodness and love for us. 

So, what qualifies me to speak about holy chaos…God’s Will qualifies me!  God loves me so much that He has given me a life so beautiful and called me to share with all of you, our readers.  Sit back, relax, and enjoy our ride 😊

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